I was busy minding my business online, replying mails and clicking on links when someone began to chat with me. I say "someone" cos I dont consider the person a friend, acquintance or anything. He happened to have gone to the same school with me and therefore, he is on my page. No big deal. I am usually polite enough to say hi back if I am online. Also, if I have time and I am not so busy, I don't mind chatting a bit. However, these days, even when I am online, I do not really have that kind of time anymore cos I always have so much to do when I am on my computer.
But back to the story: I am online, minding my business. This guys starts chatting with me. For some reason, I am quite sure I have had that same conversation with him before. I am almost 90% sure of it. Its the usual start up conversation, how are you? where are you? what do you do? etc etc, you know the drill. Anyway, as usual (as is with all Nigerian conversations with ANYBODY at all, somehow, no matter how you steer the conversation, the fact that you are 31, a woman and not yet married causes everybody great stress in their own lives) the conversation gets to the part where I do not have a husband....
BOOOOOOOOOOO HOOOOOOOOOOO HOOOOOOOO....
Now, I let him say whatever he wanted to say. Truth is, I was not really interested cos I dont even know this person in the first place, so whatever.
Then, he gets to the part where he says that all one can do is pray to God for a partner, etc, you know, the usual.
I then make a comment, which was simply "thats assuming one wants a partner"
(I am so sick of people putting their own life values on me. Why would anyone make an assumption like that? What if, I do not want a partner cos I only have six months to live and might die anytime? What if I just lost a husband? What if, I just had an accident and my legs just got cut? After all, he knows NOTHING about my life...what if I am a lesbian? Come on!)
Back to the story... so, I make this comment,"thats assuming one wants a partner", and then he says that so he takes it that I am not interested in having a partner.
and then he asks:
"WHAT DO YOU REALLY WANT IN LIFE, WAFFY?"
Now, I had to look at the question again and calm myself cos I was ready to explode! First, let us analyse this irritating bullshit question...
Now, the fact that he asks me this question just because I make a general comment about his "assumptions" reveals his way of thinking...
a) Because I do not have a partner, that means I am looking for something in life.
b) Because I do not have a partner, must mean that I want something in life (which of course, I am yet to find)
c) All those that are now married, must have found the meaning of life. Therefore, they search no more. They now know what they want.
Okay, lets forget about the stupidity of his reasoning...even thinking about this kind of reasoning irritates the hell out of me...lets go to the best part.
Now, lets say, really, I am thinking about what I really want in life, why the hell would I tell somebody that I hardly know?
a) He is not my closest friend that I just got drunk with and now we are talking about "deep" stuff.
b) He is not a psychiatrist that I went to for help in finding out the meaning of life.
c) I am not in church or any other religious gathering where ministers enjoy asking such "fundamental" shit...
d) AM I ON OPRAH????
Anyway, after all these thoughts raced through my mind in perhaps two or three seconds, all I said to him was that since he did not know me, I did not think such a question was appropraite since I did not ask for any kind of help. Secondly, such a question was not for him to ask me, but for me to ask myself, thats assuming I am "wanting" something in life...
But the best part is this:
Men really have such huge fucking egos. Why the hell does he think he can ask me, such a question?....ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww...
Now, I am done.