Friday, February 20, 2009

To "way lay" or not to "way lay"?

My ears are burning as I listen to the two teachers go on and on about how children are like, the pranks, the bullying, etc etc. I wanted to scream at them to shut up, I fucking read the damn pedagogy!I probably know more about that shit than two of them put together...my ears were just burning and burning...and that little brat, standing there, with arms akimbo, snickering at me, that compact, short, stout little brat. How old could she be? 5? 6? Now, having been a victim of bullying at different stages in my life, I know exactly what this is all about. Yes, I handled it very well, thanks to my parents, my brother and my ever faithful friends but still, it is painful to think that children can cause so much harm.

Anyway, so this little compact human being is a bully. First of all, she goes around telling the whole class not to talk to my little friend(who I am here to pick up, since this weekend I am living the life of a single mum, hard work, I assure you)cos she is black. Yes, my friend, lets call her Hadiza, is the only black girl in the class. Thats not even the issue. Now, she has made Hadiza do something I find very weird so she can get her doll back or some story like that. Fact is, its about a doll. (I will narrate the weird thing when the mum gives me permission to do so, you know how sensitive parents can be with stories of their kids).

Anyway, I know the rules, I can't really do anything except talk to the teachers and they in turn will have to talk to the girl's parents, etc etc. I know all that, but still, I am thinking....what if I "waylay" the little brat and warn her properly? You know, the Nigerian way? I mean, surely that will do no harm? Okay, say she reports to the teachers? ehen? After all, I am not the mum, the mum can always claim that I had no idea of how they handle stuff over here....

I am telling you, I am warming up to the idea...we shall see on monday...

9 comments:

miz-cynic said...

i kinda cheekily agree with u jare..show her how its done the naij way.lol.hehehehe

wordmerchant said...

Kids can be very cruel..my nephew once came home with sand all over his hair...the school bully had taken a shine to him...poor boy. We found out it was a girl...twice his size if i may add. My sis when to the school and treatened to beat the child and her mother!!! lmao!

Of course the teachers who were doing nothing decided to do something about it because the bullying stopped

Later...he told us that his friend said she (the bully) fancied him lol!!!!

Funms-the rebirth said...

awwww poor hadiza. i feel u on the way lay, wont be a bad idea...lets call it accidental...

Afrobabe said...

Biko leave the little midget oh...there is a recession on and we dont have money to bail u.....just leave am abeg...

Danny Bagucci said...

Make u teash the yeye pickin better sometin. im dey crase?????

Sandrine said...

Hi Waffy,
My kids had several times problems with bullies.A long time ago, when my oldest son and daughter were in day-care, my sister in law got tired of the boy (Lewis) who kept bothering them and gave him a strong lecture (I had not ask her to do that).The teachers were glad she did and let her because they were sick of the kid.He never tried again.
My oldest son (9) got a problem with an older girl last year in aftercare.She tried to choke him.He is blue belt in taekwando and hit her back.He is not supposed to use his skills but I told him that if somebody tries to choke him, he could defend himself and I would stand by him.He got in trouble but she never bothered him again.
Few weeks ago,a little boy who kept harrassing my youngest daughter (5) tried to choke her. I e-mailed the teacher and reminded her of the zero tolerance for bullies policy in Miami and asked her how she would address the situation. She took care of it and my daughter does not have any problem anymore.My advice is to try first to work with the teachers and check the policy of the school.If nothing is done, complain to the principal,in writing.Maybe mention the word discrimination and lawyer (that usually has good results in Miami!)After that,if you still have no result,I think you could try my sister in law's approach.Whatever works.As long as your friend is safe.
Take care.
Sandrine

Ms. Catwalq said...

i say organize some older girls to freak the shit out of Little Miss Caucasian Bitch...who's with me?
I think I can spare like $20.00 fr candy as payment...ya heard

Sting said...

Way lay. she dey craze?

rayo said...

lol @ afro